Body Confidence, But Make It Real
For a long time, I thought body confidence meant loving my body every single day.
No bad angles.
No insecurity.
No doubt.
But that’s not real.
Real confidence isn’t about loving how you look all the time.
It’s about not letting how you look control how you live.
And that’s what I’ve been learning.
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I stopped waiting to feel “ready” to live my life.
I used to think:
“I’ll wear that when I lose weight.”
“I’ll go out when I feel better about myself.”
“I’ll post that when I look different.”
Now I ask myself:
What if I didn’t wait?
Confidence doesn’t come first.
Action does.
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I stopped treating my body like a problem to fix.
I used to look at my body like a project.
Always something to improve.
Always something wrong.
Now I try to see it as something that carries me through my life.
It walks me places.
It holds me up.
It lets me experience things.
That perspective alone softened so much of my self-criticism.
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I stopped comparing my body to people online.
Not because I’m strong.
But because it was draining me.
I didn’t unfollow everyone.
I just became more intentional.
If something made me feel smaller, I muted it.
Protecting your mental space is part of body confidence.
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I started wearing clothes that feel good, not just look good.
Some days I want structure.
Some days I want softness.
Some days I want oversized everything.
Comfort is not giving up.
It’s listening.
And when I feel physically comfortable, I show up differently.
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I remind myself that confidence doesn’t mean no insecurity.
It just means insecurity doesn’t get to make my decisions anymore.
I can feel unsure and still go out.
I can feel bloated and still dress cute.
I can feel awkward and still take up space.
That’s confidence.
Final thought:
You don’t need to love your body every day.
You just need to stop punishing yourself for having one.
Body confidence isn’t a destination.
It’s a relationship.
And like all relationships, it grows when you treat it gently.
That’s what I’m practicing.